I cannot forget watching the interview with Charles and Diana after they had become engaged. They were asked if they were “in love.” Diane responded positively, but Charles…like a stiff cold fish…said, “Whatever in love means.”
Diana should have removed the engagement ring, dropped it in
Charles’ lap and walked away. But Diana
was only 19 years old, inexperienced and without the wisdom of age. Charles was already in his 30s, experienced,
and should have had wisdom, but apparently did not.
Although the ceremonies engaged in by the royalty are steeped
in religious tradition, he apparently did not understand the meaning of the
marriage vows. In the Bible, a man is
admonished to love his wife as Christ loves the Church. (Ephesians 5:25) He is to protect and nurture his wife. He is to make their relationship
exclusive. Charles was already “in love”
with someone else. Perhaps he thought he
could keep the relationship with Diana exclusive. But it is claimed that he told Diana that he
refused to be the only Prince of Wales who didn’t have a mistress. It doesn’t sound like he was committed to
exclusivity.
Had Charles properly loved Camilla, he would have had the
courage to admit his love for her and take the consequences. Had he properly loved Diana, he would have
had the self-control to focus on her and her needs, rather than his own. If he had loved her, he would have maintained
the relationship, and she would not have been out in the world seeking
affection from other men. She would not
have been in a car with Dodi Fayed. Her
sons would not have grown up without their mother.
I did not watch the coronation. I cannot respect a man who has behaved so
badly.
I cannot respect Donald Trump for similar reasons.
I do respect the men I see in the retirement community caring
tenderly for their wives as they age.
The reverse is true also. I see
women standing by their husbands even in the face of physical and mental
decline. These are people who
understand the marriage vows, and who will stand before God having followed the
example of Christ.
I am grateful for a husband whose love was exclusive and
unwavering. Early on, we verbalized our
commitment to grow old together. I just wish
“old” had meant more than his 79 years.