Almighty God, we acknowledge our dependence upon thee, and we beg thy blessings upon us, our parents, our teachers, and our country.
My parents moved to a rural community outside of Buffalo, NY, when I was in second grade. The move occurred over Christmas vacation, so in January of 1952, I began attending a very small grade school. Grades 1-3 met in one room and grades 4-6 in another. Kindergarten was in a classroom all its own. It was in this setting that I first encountered the prayer.
Every morning we stood to say the Pledge of Allegiance, and then recited the prayer together. As I became more theologically aware, I realized the very generic nature of the prayer. No specific God is invoked. No controversial doctrine is advocated....only a request for blessing from someone believed to be capable of giving it. The prayer would work for Jew or Christian. Of course, it would work for Muslims too, but in the 1950s I was totally unaware of that religious category.
Sadly, this brief daily ritual, this tiny slice of civility, has been lost. It has not just been abandoned. It has been banned. How unfortunate, that students no longer begin the day with a few seconds of reflection.
Almighty God....There is a person and a purpose beyond myself. Someone to whom I am responsible. Someone powerful is watching my behaviors today. He will know how I treat others and whether my actions are honorable.
We acknowledge our dependence upon thee....I am not invincible. I cannot meet all my own needs.
We beg thy blessings upon us...It is a good God who makes daily provision for me.
Our parents...Parents are God's gift to us. They are not our jailers put in place to make our lives miserable. They are His gift for guidance.
Our teachers...God has placed them in authority over us for our good. We are supposed to actually try to learn from them.
Our country...Who can measure the advantage of growing up in the United States of America? We have "rights" which are really privileges unknown in so many places in this world. Freedoms worthy of cherishing are ours.
Someone please try to explain to me what is wrong with this prayer? Oh, yes, I know it is offensive to the atheist. Let him plug his ears or come up with an alternative that causes children to begin the day recognizing truths about their existence and putting the day's interactions in a context of respect.
Of course, many....perhaps most...mumbled their way through the prayer not thinking in depth about the meaning. But, when one recites something day after day, whether or not ones mind is actively engaged, the concepts begin seeping into the cracks and crevices of the mind.
We have lost much, and we are reaping the consequences in disrespect for parents, teachers and our country.
Sunday, June 27, 2010
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
What makes a marriage last?
Recently one of my readers asked me to write about the Al and Tipper Gore split. How does it happen that a supposedly successful marriage comes unglued after 40 years? Well, the answer apparently is "pretty easily." I have been stunned by some long term marriages among friends that have dissolved after decades.
It happens when a couple drifts apart and no longer have anything in common. One or the other stops learning new things and has nothing to bring to the relationship. Or perhaps, their interests become very different, and they stop caring about the interests of the other.
It happens when one member of the couple decides that someone other than their spouse is a little more appealing. Sharing concerns with that person and being met with compassion turns to a bit of flirting, which turns to increasing intimacy, which turns to a broken marriage. At what point was the line crossed...the flashing warning light ignored?
Today I celebrate 42 years of marriage. But those 42 years are made up of 42 times 365 days. Not counting extra days for leap years, that is 15,330 days! 15,330 times, although not always consciously, I have decided that I love my husband, and that he is worth the commitment. Thousands of times, I have chosen not to share a problem or a joy with someone other than my husband. I am not saying that I have not had friends of opposite gender with whom I have joked around and shared things. But, I have never risked an inappropriate level of intimacy that might put that person ahead of my husband as my primary source of emotional, social, spiritual and sexual interaction.
A lasting marriage is made up of daily choices and hard work. It means never thinking you are safe from temptation or "that could never happen to me!" It means that both members of the partnership are making these daily choices and guarding the relationship.
Given all of the temptations and variables, a lasting marriage is also a gift of God's grace. It is a miracle, and I do mean miracle, that any marriage lasts for decades, given the fact that two imperfect people are responsible for daily choices.
I accepted Christ as my personal Savior when I was 7 years old. Shortly after this, it occurred to me that if I were to ever marry, somewhere in the world was a little boy who faced all the challenges of growing up that I was facing. Since he would one day be the most important person in the world to me, I started to pray for him. I prayed that God would keep him safe and help him to grow into the person God had planned for him to be. I prayed that we would meet in God's time and way.
During high school, nursing school and my first year of college, I was not only boy-friendless, but also, for the most part, dateless. I had many discussions with God about this, and finally decided that if there was no such little boy for whom I had prayed, I would be OK. I determined that I would be the happiest single there had ever been. Within a few months of that decision, I met Bill. Two years later, June 22, 1968, I made a lifetime commitment to him, and day after day with God's help, I keep remaking that commitment.
It happens when a couple drifts apart and no longer have anything in common. One or the other stops learning new things and has nothing to bring to the relationship. Or perhaps, their interests become very different, and they stop caring about the interests of the other.
It happens when one member of the couple decides that someone other than their spouse is a little more appealing. Sharing concerns with that person and being met with compassion turns to a bit of flirting, which turns to increasing intimacy, which turns to a broken marriage. At what point was the line crossed...the flashing warning light ignored?
Today I celebrate 42 years of marriage. But those 42 years are made up of 42 times 365 days. Not counting extra days for leap years, that is 15,330 days! 15,330 times, although not always consciously, I have decided that I love my husband, and that he is worth the commitment. Thousands of times, I have chosen not to share a problem or a joy with someone other than my husband. I am not saying that I have not had friends of opposite gender with whom I have joked around and shared things. But, I have never risked an inappropriate level of intimacy that might put that person ahead of my husband as my primary source of emotional, social, spiritual and sexual interaction.
A lasting marriage is made up of daily choices and hard work. It means never thinking you are safe from temptation or "that could never happen to me!" It means that both members of the partnership are making these daily choices and guarding the relationship.
Given all of the temptations and variables, a lasting marriage is also a gift of God's grace. It is a miracle, and I do mean miracle, that any marriage lasts for decades, given the fact that two imperfect people are responsible for daily choices.
I accepted Christ as my personal Savior when I was 7 years old. Shortly after this, it occurred to me that if I were to ever marry, somewhere in the world was a little boy who faced all the challenges of growing up that I was facing. Since he would one day be the most important person in the world to me, I started to pray for him. I prayed that God would keep him safe and help him to grow into the person God had planned for him to be. I prayed that we would meet in God's time and way.
During high school, nursing school and my first year of college, I was not only boy-friendless, but also, for the most part, dateless. I had many discussions with God about this, and finally decided that if there was no such little boy for whom I had prayed, I would be OK. I determined that I would be the happiest single there had ever been. Within a few months of that decision, I met Bill. Two years later, June 22, 1968, I made a lifetime commitment to him, and day after day with God's help, I keep remaking that commitment.
Wednesday, June 9, 2010
Way more serious than a watermelon seed
My brother Bob was born when I was almost 13 years old. I was his built in babysitter, which I didn’t mind a bit. I doted on him. One summer when he was a toddler, and I was away at summer camp, I received news that upset me terribly. Bob had pushed a watermelon seed up his nose. My mother couldn’t reach it, and the country doctor to whom she took him had only succeeded in pushing the seed up farther, so that it was pretty much out of sight. I received word that they were going to have to anesthetize Bob and extract the seed surgically.
Being in my mid-teens and medically naive, all sorts of images flashed through my mind. Would they have to cut into his face? Was it possible to snake some small instrument in far enough to reach it? If such a thing happens now, communication by email, cell phone or text would quickly answer the questions, but this was in the late 1950s, so I was left to agonize most of a day before I could get home. In the meantime, I prayed urgently and was, in spite of my prayers, a nervous wreck. Fear’s icy hand wrapped itself right around my heart.
Today my brother Bob is having open heart surgery to repair two leaky valves which were somehow damaged by a systemic infection of unknown origin. This is way more serious than a watermelon seed in the nose.
I have prayed urgently, and asked friends to pray, but I am not a nervous wreck. Fifty years have passed since the watermelon seed incident. In those years, I have come to trust in the fact that God is always good. He is good when all is going well, and He is good when we are in crisis mode. The most awful experiences of life can be seen in retrospect to be examples of God’s grace to us. We may never understand why certain things happen, but years later we can see that God was gracious and loving in the midst and since.
So today, may God guide those caring for Bob giving them strength and wisdom. May God surround Bob with His love and care. May God bless and sustain Bob’s family….his wife Kathy and his children, Aaron, Allison and Abigail….and his sister, who can’t get the watermelon seed out of her mind today.
Saturday, June 5, 2010
Do the next right thing
One night this week, I had a phone call from a single mother in great distress. She was crying and feeling overwhelmed as life seemed to come crashing in on her. She was holed up in her room with the door closed. While we talked, her children kept coming to the door, and she kept telling them to go away.
It was 6:30 pm, and I finally asked her if she had fed her children supper yet.
No, she hadn't.
"Well, then, go feed your children supper."
She protested that she couldn't until she had solved the current problem that was so distressing her.
But, this was not a problem easily solved....there was no quickly obvious course of action.
My advice, when you don't know what to do about some big problem is to DO THE NEXT RIGHT THING!
Don't sit around paralyzed and weeping. Decide what is the most important thing to be doing right then, and go do it. Put the problem on the back burner of your mind. As you go about normal life, ask the Lord to work in your heart and mind and give you clear insight into the path you should take. Don't obsess over it. Fix supper, or clean the house, or do the laundry or get groceries or whatever needs to happen in order to keep life running smoothly for your family. Let God concern Himself with your crisis. He is expert at handling the seemingly impossible.
Another component of this advice is that life needs to be broken up into manageable pieces. You don't have to decide right now what you are going to be doing a year from now. It's fine to do long-range thinking when you are feeling emotionally stable, but when you are under great stress, don't think too far ahead. Just ask God for the strength for the next day...or hour....or 10 minute particle of time. When you have passed that milestone, you can face the next one.
I have followed my own advice on this many times, and I know it works. If you keep pulling yourself back to doing what is right in the present, the future somehow falls into place. By the time you reach the point where a crucial decision must be made, the correct path is clear.
Just do the next right thing.
It was 6:30 pm, and I finally asked her if she had fed her children supper yet.
No, she hadn't.
"Well, then, go feed your children supper."
She protested that she couldn't until she had solved the current problem that was so distressing her.
But, this was not a problem easily solved....there was no quickly obvious course of action.
My advice, when you don't know what to do about some big problem is to DO THE NEXT RIGHT THING!
Don't sit around paralyzed and weeping. Decide what is the most important thing to be doing right then, and go do it. Put the problem on the back burner of your mind. As you go about normal life, ask the Lord to work in your heart and mind and give you clear insight into the path you should take. Don't obsess over it. Fix supper, or clean the house, or do the laundry or get groceries or whatever needs to happen in order to keep life running smoothly for your family. Let God concern Himself with your crisis. He is expert at handling the seemingly impossible.
Another component of this advice is that life needs to be broken up into manageable pieces. You don't have to decide right now what you are going to be doing a year from now. It's fine to do long-range thinking when you are feeling emotionally stable, but when you are under great stress, don't think too far ahead. Just ask God for the strength for the next day...or hour....or 10 minute particle of time. When you have passed that milestone, you can face the next one.
I have followed my own advice on this many times, and I know it works. If you keep pulling yourself back to doing what is right in the present, the future somehow falls into place. By the time you reach the point where a crucial decision must be made, the correct path is clear.
Just do the next right thing.
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
On being forgetful
This morning I had a great idea for something to write on my blog, but I didn't have time to get online and create it. I was sure I wouldn't forget later. So now, it's later, and I have no idea what the topic was that inspired me this morning. Unfortunately, it's not the first time this has happened.
My mind is no longer the steel trap that it was in my youth. I go to the refrigerator and forget what I intended to get out. I walk up the stairs and can't remember what I intended to do. I start dusting and get distracted, and then don't remember where I left the dust cloth. I intend to call someone on Monday and finally think of it Wednesday or Thursday.
Strangely, I can still quote things I learned as a child and teen. I remember silly songs, Bible verses, and the beginning of Caesar's Commentary on the Gallic Wars. As my father aged, he reached a point where he almost lived in World War II and told and retold stories constantly. I suppose someday I will talk endlessly about the wild and crazy stuff that happened in nursing school and college.
I survive at work by making lists....I have a list of what needs to be accomplished in the month, another for the week, another for the day. I'm planning to retire before I have to make hourly lists.
My mind is no longer the steel trap that it was in my youth. I go to the refrigerator and forget what I intended to get out. I walk up the stairs and can't remember what I intended to do. I start dusting and get distracted, and then don't remember where I left the dust cloth. I intend to call someone on Monday and finally think of it Wednesday or Thursday.
Strangely, I can still quote things I learned as a child and teen. I remember silly songs, Bible verses, and the beginning of Caesar's Commentary on the Gallic Wars. As my father aged, he reached a point where he almost lived in World War II and told and retold stories constantly. I suppose someday I will talk endlessly about the wild and crazy stuff that happened in nursing school and college.
I survive at work by making lists....I have a list of what needs to be accomplished in the month, another for the week, another for the day. I'm planning to retire before I have to make hourly lists.
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