I was still a child when I began to pray for Bill…before I
knew him. Soon after inviting Jesus into
my heart and life, I thought about the fact that if I were ever to marry, there
was somewhere in the world a young boy who would one day be terribly important
to me, and that he was facing the struggles of growing up as I was. I prayed that God would protect him and help
him to grow into the man God wanted him to be.
I prayed that we would meet in the right time and way.
As I grew up pretty much dateless, but being a careful
observer of my friends’ relationships, I came up with three criteria, which I
believed were God’s directives for me.
The man I married had to be a committed Christian, he had to be at least
as intelligent as I was, and he had to have a strong enough personality to
handle my strong personality. These
characteristics were in no way a demand on my part. I believed them to be God’s leading.
At the age of 21 when I could count my actual dates on one
hand, I came to grips with the idea that I might never marry. It was possible the person for whom I had
been praying might not exist. There
certainly were men in the world with those characteristics, but maybe no one
was in God’s plan for me. I promised God
that I would not “settle” for something less than his plan for me, and that if
that plan was for me to be single, I would be the happiest single lady on the
planet. I would not be sad or
bitter. I would be joyful in the life He
planned out for me.
I met Bill about 3 months later. I don’t know at what point I stopped praying
for the nameless boy, and began instead to pray specifically for Bill, but that
did happen. When I realized it, I knew
it was significant. Here too was someone
who met the criteria and brought a whole lot of bonuses to the relationship…wonderful
things for which I had not thought to ask.
Now he is gone, and I don’t have to pray for him, because he
is with Jesus. But, what of my promise
to be happy “single?” It occurred to me
this morning, that it is time to make good on that promise. I am sure I will
continue to have times of great sadness, but I refuse to be bitter or angry at
God. I will have a positive attitude
about my life. I will find meaningful
activities. I will be joyful in my
relationship with God.
Fifty-six years later, I have a chance to keep my promise, and
I will.