I have seen many posts this past month on the importance of
various women. It has made me think
about some women who have been very important to me. Obviously, my mother and my grandmothers were
a major influence. I think I could write
an entire book about them. I also
enjoyed my mother-in-law and appreciated talking with her. But, I would like to give some credit to a few
others also.
Aunt Ruth W—was an example of a highly intelligent woman who
made her way in what was at the time a man’s world. During World War II, she advanced to a
position normally held by a man with the Bethlehem Steel Company. When they tried to “demote” her after the
war, she stood her ground and retained the position. When feminism emerged, the company realized
they did not have many female executives and wanted to promote her, but that
would have required a move to the corporate office in another state. She wasn’t open to the idea of moving at that
point in her life. She was an assertive
personality, cultured and inquisitive.
She was very kind to me. I loved
going downtown to visit her at her office and going out for lunch in a local “tearoom.”
Gertrude M—a rather formidable woman who rarely smiled. She had prior to marriage been part of the
YWCA movement. She attended the church
we began to attend when I was six years old.
She directed the camp I attended every summer. She saw to it that we memorized a Psalm every
summer at camp. She made me a senior
counselor responsible for a group of the youngest girls and had me teaching
them the Bible lessons when I was only 15.
That had a big impact on my life and belief in what I could do.
Edna H—was my Pioneer Girl Pal. She gave me loving attention over several
years. I knew I always had someone on my
side.
Mary P—an extraordinarily sweet and kind lady who was my Sunday
School teacher at some point in my teen years.
She provided her basement as a meeting place for a Bible Club after
school during my teen years also. I
always enjoyed talking with her.
June R—a pastor’s wife at the point where I was making
important decisions in my life. She
influenced my choice of nursing school and college. I babysat for her small children. She and her husband would bring me books from
the Christian bookstore to pay for my babysitting as I didn’t want to take
money from them, and I didn’t get many opportunities to go to the Christian
bookstore.
Edith L—a “mother” away from home while I was in nursing
school. I could drop in at her home
pretty much anytime and feel welcomed.
She gave wise counsel and prayed for me.
She is nearly 100 years old and is still declaring the message of Christ
by leading a Bible study in her nursing home.
Louise N—another “mother” while I was in college. I cleaned her house to pay for my room one
year, and this afforded many chances for conversation during which she shared
from her heart concerning some of her life experiences. She prayed for me for years after I graduated
from college.
I have never wanted to be exactly like any woman I have known. During my teen years, I remember one of my
close friends saying she wanted to be just like a certain woman in our
church. I was actually a bit puzzled by
this, as I couldn’t think of anyone I wanted to be exactly like.
After my Mother’s funeral service at which she had been
justifiably highly praised, someone said to me, “Well…you’re never going to
live up to that!” I thought it was a
careless thing for her to say and would have hurt most daughters who were about
to bury their mother. I actually found
it a bit amusing.
As much as I adored my Mother, I never expected to be just
like her. God makes each of us uniquely,
and we each have a purpose we need to fulfill.
My job is not to be like anyone else, but to be who God made me to be.
I do think most women are sweeter than I am, and they clearly
tolerate women’s meetings where the discussion rambles down all sorts of side
roads better than I do! But, sometimes
having a brain that charges down the tracks toward the station like a freight
train is helpful. I hope my
granddaughters grow up knowing that it’s okay to be atypical. I pray they will find God’s special path for
them.